Lub cev cov lus: cov kev yuav tsis yooj yim rau tswv, tiam sis lub dag zog yuav them tawm

Raws li ib zaug hais tias lub hiav txwv dab Ursula (tib yam ib tug los ntawm "Tus me Mermaid"): "Tsis txhob underestimate qhov tseem ceeb ntawm lub cev lus." Thiab nws yog kiag li txoj cai.

Ib txhia tricks, piv txwv li, ib tug nco luag, kawm thiab siv txhua txhua hnub yog ib qho yooj yim. Lwm cov yuav ua teeb meem rau kev kawm thiab yuav tsum tau ib co tawm kev. Cuaj kaum, lawv yuav muaj ib tug loj loj thiab tej zaum kuj txawm txiav txim seb tus nqi.

Ntawm no yog yim lub cev lus cov tswv yim uas yog tsis yooj yim rau tswv, tab sis koj dag zog yuav them tawm.

"Mirroring" lub interlocutor

"Tsom iav" tus neeg uas koj tham - ces rov dab tsi nws puas zoo li cas. Zog, lub cev txoj hauj lwm. Nws yog ib heev nyuaj, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog vim hais tias yog ib tug "mirroring" overdo nws, ib tus neeg hu yuav xav hais tias thuam los yog hais lus tso dag rau nws.

Nyob rau lwm cov tes, raug tua ua kom yuam kev ua rau nws yooj yim mus yeej.

ntseeg moj yam

Txawm tias muaj tseeb hais tias txhua leej txhua tus xav hais tias nws mus taug kev nrog cog qoob loo, qhov no yog tsis ib txwm rooj plaub. Ib txhia yog sluggish moj yam thiab slouch, lwm leej lwm tus saib tau txawv txawv thiab kaw.

Thiab tom qab nws yog heev yooj yim mus ua raws li: nws yog ib lub suab uas koj hnov nyob rau hauv no cov ntaubntawv povthawj siv xwb thiab txhua lub sij hawm koj xav hais tias nws yog koj. Tab sis yog koj sim kho qhov teeb meem, lwm tus neeg yuav txiav txim rau koj raws li ib tug neeg cog qoob loo thiab kev txiav txim.

Qhov muag hu rau: tag nrho cov nyob rau hauv koj lub qhov muag

Muaj cov neeg uas pom tau tias nws nyuaj rau muaj qhov muag saib, thiab txawm ntau li ntawd los pib mus nrhiav ncaj nraim nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag. Rau lawv, nws yog zoo li ib txwm thiab tsis xis nyob. Tab sis nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, nws yuav pab nyob rau hauv kev sib txuas lus thiab muaj ntau tshaj ib tug "khiav" los yog saib mus ib txhis downcast ob lub qhov muag.

Leyl Laundes nyob rau hauv phau ntawv "Yuav ua li cas nrog leej twg hais txog dab tsi," tswv yim xav txog tej yam uas koj lub qhov muag glued rau nws interlocutor dog dig nplaum. Thaum lub sij hawm uas koj siv tau rau nws thiab tsis txhob mus saib thiab tswj, thiab koj sib txuas lus yuav ua kom.

qhib hwj tau lub cev

Tsis paub yuav ua li cas nrog koj ob txhais tes, cov neeg rhais lawv nyob rau hauv twb los hla rau nws lub hauv siab, li ntawd, insulated los ntawm cov interlocutor. Tab sis nws subconsciously ua rau koj xav hais tias koj nyob nraum nkaum ib yam dab tsi. Qhib hwj tau lub cev muaj rau nws tus kheej ntau thiab tsim tau ib nyab xeeb ntawm kev cog qoob loo.

Calm, tab sis ua twj ywm

Fidgeting yog feem ntau yus tsis ncaj cov neeg los yog cov neeg uas ntshai. Tsis yog tus twg tsis nyiam lawv interlocutors.

Txawm li cas los, nyob rau hauv ib qho los kom zoo ntaug mus thiab tuav raws nraim ib qho yooj yim mus sib zog heev nws thiab tsis txav mus ntawm tag nrho cov. Tab sis xws li txaus qhia tsis zoo so thiab tsis muaj zoo dua "mus yos hav zoov".

Yuav kom nrhiav tau ib tug tshuav nyiaj li cas - uas yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws daws nyob rau hauv no qhov teeb meem.

cwjpwm ntawm lub cev

Cov niam txiv tau heev, berating rau koj hunched rov qab. Slackness slackness, tab sis "vau sib nrug heev" nyob rau hauv ib lub rooj zaum, piv txwv li, nyob rau hauv qhov kev sib tham - ib tug kos npe rau ntawm tsis taus. Nyob rau tib lub sij hawm tus hwj tau lub cev yog pom raws li ib tug kos npe rau ntawm kev txawj ntse, kev cog qoob loo thiab kev cia siab. Qhov no kuj ua hauj lwm tsis tsuas yog nyob rau official cov rooj sib tham.

Zaum ncaj nrog tus cwj pwm tsis yooj yim, tab sis nws yog tsim nyog lub chaw ua hauj lwm.

sib tuav tes

"Sluggish sib tuav tes" - qhov phem tshaj sib tuav tes, feem ntau qias neeg thiab tsis kaj siab ntawm tag nrho cov. Nws ua rau ib tug txiv neej pom xwb tsis muaj zog. Co tes yuav tsum muaj kev nyab xeeb rau qhib ob lub qhov muag thiab ib sab luag. Ces nws tej hauj lwm.

Incidentally, nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no ib yam nkaus thiab nws yog tsim nyog los paub qhov ntsuas, vim hais tias nws yog ib yam nkaus thiab ruaj sib tuav tes yog ntshai li aggression.

slowdown

Thaum ib tug txiv neej yog tshee, nws pib tsiv mus nyob ceev thiab tham ceev ceev. Tab sis leej thiab qeeb kev ua tsim zoo npaum li cas tswv yim. Tus txiv neej hais lus nyob rau hauv ib tug measured pace, paub hais tias nws yog tham txog - xws tswv yim yuav tsum havzoov nyob rau hauv peb lub siab.

Yog hais tias koj xav tias koj tau txais ib tug "ib feem", tso tseg, muab ib tug sib sib zog nqus pa thiab kom so ntau li sai tau. Yog li ntawd koj mam li saib zoo li ib tug competent neeg, tsis nag hmo lub ntsuab menyuam kawm ntawv.