Perfectionism - qhov no kom zoo dua los yog ib tug disadvantage?

Koj xav txhua yam kom zoo tag nrho? Koj siv ib tug ntau lub sij hawm nyob rau hauv tas mus li txoj kev txhim kho: tsos ntawm koj chaw ua hauj lwm ncig, cov phooj ywg thiab cov txheeb ze? Koj yuav xav hais tias "tsis yog-tagnrho" koj yuav tsis tau kev hlub? Perfectionism ... Qhov no meej mom los yog ib tug teeb meem loj? Yog nws nqi nws los txhawb thiab faus, los yog yuav tsum kam nrog nws?

Feem ntau ntawm peb teem peb tus kheej tej yam, feem ntau heev tej kev cai siab. Yuav kom ib co niam txiv los ntawm thaum yau qhia hais tias koj yuav tsum sib ntaus rau kev hlub, yuav tsum tau zoo, smarter, siab me ntsis ntxiv. Ib tug neeg yog ib txwm ua los sib tw nrog lwm tus neeg ua ntej ntawm lawv nyob rau hauv tag nrho cov, tshaib plab rau paub thiab kev pom zoo. Perfectionism - qhov no ntev striving rau ib tug unattainable zoo tagnrho. Nws yuav zoo dua (thiab feem ntau nws yog nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm lwm tus neeg, uas pom cov kev tshwm sim ntawm peb cov ua tau los yog ua hauj lwm rau), yog hais tias nws tsis ua rau ntau sab hauv nro.

Raws li ironic raws li nws yuav sound, perfectionism - ib qho chaw khuam nyob rau hauv lub realization ntawm peb muaj peev xwm ua. Yog vim li cas? Rau qhov yooj yim yog vim li cas hais tias nyob rau hauv tus caum qab ntawm perfection, tej zaum peb tsis nco qab txog lub tseem ceeb tshaj plaws: txog lub neej nws tus kheej, hais txog lub hom phiaj ntawm peb kev ua haujlwm thiab kev txhawj xeeb. Peb ua tsis tshua zoo. txawm tias thaum twg peb ua tiav ib ua hauj lwm, peb khaws los rov qab mus rau nws, mus saib dab tsi yuav los yuav hloov mus rau qhov zoo. Raws li ib tug tshwm sim, peb tsis muaj ib tug nkag siab ntawm kev txaus siab, thiab yog ib qhov uas peb Corp. tsis muaj qhov kawg, thiab yog "neeg txhaum". Peb siv rau peb ua lag ua luam thiab txoj hauj lwm ntev npaum li cas tshaj li tsim nyog.

Tej zaum cov kev txhim kho no tsis tsuas tsis txhim kho li cas koj tau ua hauj lwm rau, tab sis kuj ua mob rau lub fetus kev siv zog. Ib qho piv txwv yuav, hais tias, ib tug kev nthuav qhia ntawm ib qhov project. Peb xav hais tias lub npe twb tsis tau siab qhia, peb tau bogged nyob rau hauv kev txom kev nthuav dav thiab ntxiv cov ntsiab lus, ua tim khawv thiab lus. Raws li ib tug tshwm sim, peb tes num loses nws transparency thiab clarity. Nco ntsoov hais tias nws yog heev npaum li cas zoo dua - qhov tiag cov yeeb ncuab ntawm qhov zoo.

Perfectionism - yog tseem lossi tos rau lub "zoo meej" lub sij hawm ntawd. Uas, feem ntau yuav, yuav tsis tuaj, tab sis tsis muaj qhov uas peb yuav tsis ua kev txiav txim siab. Qhov no yuav muab piv nrog rau cov kev qhia "rau tos rau cov huab cua nyob rau hauv lub hiav txwv." Yeej yuav muaj ib yam dab tsi uas koj muaj peev xwm tsis txaus siab txog: nws yog ib yam nkaus thiab pos huab, lub hnub qhov muag tsis pom, ces dhau txias, unbearably kub. Clinging rau tej yam me me, peb tsis tau pom cov duab loj foundations.

Yuav ua li cas lwm complexity generates perfectionism? Qhov no nro thiab muaj zog ntxhov siab vim. Peb xav kom pom teeb meem ua ntej lawv ua tau tshwm sim thiab nyob rau hauv ceeb tuaj nrog daws rau lawv. Nws yuav ib tug xav xav tau los mus tiv thaiv tau teeb meem. Txawm li cas los, feem ntau ntawm cov teeb meem tau yog yeej tsis tshwm sim los yog tsis tseem ceeb txaus. Perfectionism nyob rau hauv psychology xam tau tias yog feem ntau los ntawm lub standpoint ntawm kev nyuaj siab thiab ntxhov siab vim hais tias nws generates. Txawm tias qhov no zoo yuav pab tau lossi siv zog rau kev cai siab dua thiab ua zoo dua, ntxhov siab yog inevitable. Thiab nws yog ua raws li los ntawm siab, ib tug siab ntawm tsis tseem ceeb, tsis ntawm nws tus kheej-kev tso siab.

Yuav ua li cas nrog perfectionism thiab seb puas yuav ua li cas? Yog hais tias cov cuab yeej no mas yuav kis cov ua cim ntawm obsessional neurosis, hlwb yuav pab ib co. Txawm li cas los, tus neeg yuav muaj peev xwm ua tau ib tug ntau rau lawv tus kheej. Tab sis tsis txhob tso tseg ua ib tug perfectionist, thiab kawm tau li cas los tswj lawv tus mob.

Kawm saib tag nrho cov duab, cais tawm lub tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Sim nruj me ntsis raws li lub hom phiaj. Piv txwv li, yog hais tias tus tua ntawm cov lag luam uas koj tau xaiv 2 teev tom qab lawv coj ib so, tsis txhob cia ruaj nthuav dav thiab kev sib tsoo nqos koj txawm ib nrab ib hnub twg. Kawm thiab hais rau koj tus kheej, "Tsis txhob." Yog, koj paub lub txhaum ntawm tej yam los yog ib qhov thiab hais tias koj yeej tseem ntxiv ib yam dab tsi thiab txhim kho. Tab sis txawv tej yam uas koj tau tiav nrog cov npaj lub hom phiaj. Yog hais tias nws yog ua nyob rau hauv lub ntsiab, sim hloov tawm thiab ua lwm yam. Tej zaum cov hauj lwm ntawm casting ib tug tshiab lub qhov muag, koj twb paub lawm hais tias txhua yam yog twb zoo txaus.