Kuv xav hlub thiab yuav hlub ... lub tswv yim mus cuag lub hom phiaj

Dab tsi ua rau neeg zoo siab thiab ua rau nws ua tau rau nyob rau hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog txhua lwm yam? Tej zaum sawv daws yuav teb lo lus nug no txawv. Tom qab tag nrho, txhua leej txhua tus muaj lawv tus kheej kev npau suav thiab kev ntshaw, tab sis txhua yam yuav tsum tau kom paub tseeb tias kev hlub yog ib tug ntawm cov yuav tsum muaj tug ncej ntawm peb lub neej. Peb yog kev beings, thiab yog li ntawd peb mob siab ua tau cov nyiaj them yug thiab to taub, kev hlub thiab muab siab npuab Vajtswv. Thiab muaj ntau yam ntseeg hais tias lub neej yog tsim nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav pab kom peb mus pab thiab raws li cov kev xav tau ntawm cov phooj ywg. Tab sis nyob rau hauv kev muaj tiag, peb yog tag nrho cov cim thiab ib tug neeg. Tus txiv neej yog tsim rau ib tug zoo siab lub neej, uas yuav tsum xub ua tsaug rau koj tus kheej! Muaj tseeb txhua tus ntxhais xim tsev ib tug zoo meej daim duab nyob rau hauv kuv tus npau suav, thiab repeats cov mantra: "Kuv xav los hlub thiab yuav hlub!"

Zeej: Fact los yog contrived stereotype

Muaj ntau cov poj niam yuav ua yeeb yam rau lub neej yam thiab saib txhua yam nyob rau hauv qhov tsaus ntuj nti xim. Muab piv rau koj tus kheej nrog rau lwm cov poj niam pib mus rau "nrhiav" complexes thiab tau ntshai. Tom qab tag nrho, ib tug neeg yeej ib txwm mas, zoo siab thiab txaus nyiam. Thiab yog hais tias qhov no yog tiag tiag rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv? Koj yuav tsis txiav txim ib tug txiv neej tsis paub txog nws. Nws pib ua ib qho kev sim kom tau los ze zog mus rau lub opposite pw ua ke thiab tej zaum yuav yeej tsis. Tab sis qhov no tsis txhais hais tias nws yog doomed.

Qhov teeb meem yog nyob rau hauv relation mus rau lub teeb meem - lub fanatical pursuit ntawm lub hom phiaj, thiab tsis ua hauj lwm rau defeat ua rau ib tug sib sib zog nqus kev nyuaj siab. Koj tsis tau khwb, koj yuav tsum xub to taub koj tus kheej. Yuav ua li cas yog koj txaus siab ua rau koj lub neej, "ntws" nyob rau hauv ib tug txawv channel? Nws yog tsim nyog yuav pib hloov lub npaj cwj pwm. Yuav ua li cas qhov no yuav pab tau? Cov lus teb no yog cuab kev - cov lus "Kuv xav hlub thiab muaj kev hlub," yuav tsum mus yuav ib tug elusive lub hom phiaj rau koj!

Hlub koj tus kheej

Peb tus no yog ua los ntawm txhiab ntawm tawg tsam uas txhais peb lub neej, cwj pwm mus rau lawv tus kheej thiab lwm leej lwm tus. Thiab yog hais tias ib tug poj niam tau ib zaug lawm hais tias nws tsis yog tsim nyog los ntawm kev hlub, qhov no stereotype yog reflected thoob plaws nws lub neej. Psychologists hais tias kev hlub - yog ib tug rog xav txog ntawm cov cwm pwm ntawm cov psycho-lub siab lub ntsws ncaj ncees. Hais tias yog, tag nrho cov tsis totaub yog twb tsis pub dhau rau peb. Thiab thaum peb ua tau raws li ib tug dlej txiv neej, peb qhia rau nws lawv txoj kev xav, uas Ameslikas muaj rau nws tus kheej. Ntawm no yog cov lus teb - yog hais tias koj yeej tsis hlub koj tus kheej, Yog hais tias koj muaj peev xwm muab qhov no lawm mus rau lwm? Ntawm cov hoob kawm tsis tau! Txiv neej, ib tug hais tsis zoo thiab heev "mob" yuav tsis nyiam lwm. Tom qab tag nrho, ib yam li cov txiv neej nyob rau hauv kev tshawb fawb ntawm ib tug txiv neej uas muaj peev xwm ntseeg siab. Puas tus poj niam, tsis txhob qhuas lawv, tsis appreciating nws zoo, nws muaj peev xwm txhawb? Nws yog tsim nyog los kawm tau li cas los qhia lawv txoj kev xav thiab hlub cov me thiab mob ib tug neeg uas nyob hauv koj. Cia koj tus kheej yuav tsum tau free thiab qhib kom tus tshiab thiab tsis paub hais tias. Paub koj tus ntsuj plig, thiab ces cov kab lus "kuv xav hlub thiab yuav hlub" yuav tsis tus xav xav tau, thiab embodied nyob rau hauv ib tug tshiab zoo siab lub neej.

nrog kev txwv

Heev feem ntau, cov hluas nkauj lawv tus kheej yog programmed yav tom ntej failures. Nws yog ntseeg hais tias lawv tsis tsim nyog ntawm xws li ib tug zoo kawg nkaus lawm, zoo li txoj kev hlub, ncaj ncees. Cov poj niam pib xav tias cov neeg raug yam thiab doom. Tsim ib tug nyob ze kev sib raug zoo, txhua lub sij hawm lawv hais lawv tus kheej seb lawv yog cov tsim nyog ntawm cov xaiv tseg? Nws yuav muaj ib yam dab tsi, los yog tsis ua hauj lwm yuav rov qab los?

Cov poj niam yog twv cov txiv neej uas xav tias lawv tus yam ntxwv rau lawv tus kheej, pib coj nrog lawv cia li raws li ib tug raug tsim txom, cia lawv tus kheej tsausmuag deeds thiab txoj. Tom qab tag nrho, nws deserves no, yog hais tias nws coj xws li ib tug teeb meem no. Thiab thaum koj rov hais dua rau koj tus kheej, "Kuv xav tau kev hlub" - koj tsis ntseeg tias nws. Hloov koj tus cwj pwm ntawm lub neej, tsis txhob lawm thov txim rau "hluas nkauj" hauv koj. Nco zoo siab tias koj yog cim thiab unrepeatable. Thiab tsuas xws li ib tug cwj pwm yuav ua rau koj txaus nyiam rau qhov opposite pw ua niam txiv.

Ntshai ntawm kev mob thiab tshiab disappointments

Nyob rau hauv txhua lub neej muaj setbacks thiab disappointments, tab sis ib tug neeg muaj peev xwm "tau sawv" thiab mus rau, thiab ib tug neeg txau nws qhov mob ntawm ib tug txhua txhua hnub. Muaj yog ib tug tag nrho ua yeeb yam nyob rau hauv lub neej, nws lossi scrolls qhov teeb meem no nyob rau hauv uas nws twb tau dag. Nyob rau hauv lub kawg, nws pib tag nrho rau lawv tus kheej mus blame! Nrhiav vim li cas rau cov kis pib ntshai ciaj sia lub tshiab qee nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej lub neej. Xws li ib tug teeb meem no ua rau lub fact tias cov poj niam yog ntshai qhia rau tus neeg tshiab nyob rau hauv koj lub siab.

Nws xav hais tias nyob rau hauv no txoj kev uas nws tiv thaiv nws tus kheej los ntawm qhov mob. Xav phem cais tsis overwhelm thiab kav lub ntiajteb yuav, ib tug poj niam muaj peev xwm pib yos ib tug txiv leej tub, tab sis nyob rau thawj zaug uas sau tseg thiab hides nyob rau hauv ib tug "plhaub". Koj hais rau koj tus kheej: "Kuv xav kom muaj kev hlub yog muaj" - tab sis lawv nrhiav kev kom tau qhov ua rau liam hais tias nws dag los yog treason. Nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug teeb meem no nws yog tsim nyog zam txim rau tus neeg uas koj ua txhaum rau, thiab kuv tus kheej. Nws yog tsis tsim nyog kom chim thiab npau taws heev heev. Lub ntiaj teb no yog neeg txhaum, yog li cov neeg nyob ib ncig ntawm koj. Yog li ntawd, tej zaum, tsis txhob tawm ntawm lub tsev? Cia koj tus kheej mus nyob rau, pib sib txuas lus ntau thiab qhia lawv txoj kev xav openly.

Tsis xav maj

Muaj ntau cov ntxhais hluas muaj obsessed nrog qhov kev ntshai kho siab heev. Lawv yog cov ntshai tsis muaj sij hawm mus nrhiav nws ib tug thiab pib mus saib nws nyob rau hauv ib yam ntawm cov opposite pw ua niam txiv. Qhov no xav xav tau pushes rau manifest lawv tus cwj pwm txawv nyob rau hauv ib tug txhoj puab heev li. Nws ua ib tug cov lus hais tias cov kab lus "kuv xav hlub thiab yuav hlub no thiab muaj cai tam sim no." Poj niam nrhiav kom tau ib tug txiv neej nyob rau hauv txhua txoj kev. Nws xav hais tias yog hais tias nws yoojyim, nws yuav nco ntsoov nyob twj ywm ib leeg.

Qhov no lub xeev ntawm affairs ua rau tag nrho cov tswj xaiv. Qhov tham txog kev sib raug zoo, quarrels rau tej ntees. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, xws cwj pwm repels cov txiv neej, lawv tsis xav mloog thiab tsis xav kom "kov yeej". Gentlemen xav tias koj twb txiav txim siab txhua yam rau nws, thiab qhov no yog tsis tsim nyog. Txhua leej txhua tus yuav tsum muaj ib tug xaiv. Lawm, xws cwj pwm ua rau rupture. Tsis muaj teeb meem li cas trite nws suab, tab sis nws yog tsim nyog los kiag li cia mus ntawm qhov teeb meem no rau ib co raws li txawm hloov mus rau lwm cov kev txhawj xeeb. Creative ywj siab cwm pwm. Nws yog cov poj niam uas yog ib tug me ntsis aloof cwj pwm, heev nyiam cov txiv neej.

Yog koj npaj txhij rau kev hlub

Tej zaum kuj muaj yog ib qhov teeb meem uas nws yog heev ua rau cov kev sib raug zoo, dreaming ntawm nws xaiv ib tug, thiab thaum nws los txog rau lub sij romantic ntsib, to taub - nws tsis yog npaj txhij tsis tau. Cais qhov teeb meem no, Yog hais tias koj yuav hloov koj lub neej, cia nws nyob rau hauv lwm tus neeg. Mloog koj tus kheej, yuav ua li cas koj yuav hnov thiab seb puas yuav ua xaus rau lub hom phiaj ntawm ib tug neeg hlub ib tug. Kev sib raug zoo - yog ib tug uas txoj kev nyob nruab nrab ntawm ob tug neeg, thiab ua tau kev sib raug zoo thiab kev nkag siab yuav tsuas yuav los ntawm txoj kev txhua hnub thiab painstaking ua hauj lwm. Yog hais tias koj tsis xav kom tshem tau ntawm Internal ceg thiab kev ntshai, raws li koj ua ib tug zoo meej sib raug zoo nyob rau hauv uas koj yuav nrhiav tau kev zoo siab? Yog li ntawd txiav txim siab rau koj tus kheej, seb puas muaj ib cov khawv koob kab lus, "Kuv xav hlub thiab yuav hlub" tseem ceeb heev qhov tseeb ntawm lub neej, los yog yuav nyob twj ywm nyob rau hauv kuv tus npau suav.

Siv zog kom sib hlub thiab tshiab txoj kev xav kom lawm thiab beautifully. Hlub coj peb ib tug paub kev zoo siab thiab kev ruaj ntseg, muab kev sib raug zoo nrog cov ib puag ncig thiab pushes zoo nkauj yam. Yog li ntawd yog vim li cas tsis pab koj tus kheej thiab tsis txhob muab pov tseg rau hauv lub ntshai thiab ruaj ntshai? Nws yog lub npe hu hais tias lub omission rau tsis muaj dab tsi lead. Ua kom tau koj tus npau suav - thiab ces koj tsis muaj ib tug npau suav, thiab rov qab hais dua nyob rau hauv koj lub siab: "Kuv xav kom yuav tsum tau xav thiab hlub," koj yuav los ua ib tug kev muaj tiag!