Yuav ua li cas kho kev sib raug zoo nrog sawv daws yuav txheeb tom qab ib tug loj sib ntaus

Tu siab, ob peb uas tsis sib cav sib ceg, los yog ua tau li ntawd heev tsis tshua muaj nyob rau hauv ntiaj teb yeej yog yuav luag tsis tuaj. Nyob rau hauv lub neej tiag tiag, skirmishes muaj lovers yog heev. Yog vim li cas rau qhov sib txawv yuav ua tau raws li ib tug qhib lub raj tshuaj txhuam hniav, thiab ib tug ntau loj vim li cas, piv txwv li, diametrically opposed views on yam tseem ceeb.

Wb hais nws xav mus so rau ntawm lub hiav txwv txhua txhua xyoo mus nce lub zog thiab lub zog rau tag nrho lub xyoo, thiab tus txiv leej tub nyhav kom txuag tau nyiaj mus yuav ib tug chav nres tsheb, thiab muaj tsis mus nyob qhov twg. Tej yam xav ib yam thiab views on tej yam uas yuav tsis tau tsuas yog ua rau ib tug loj sib ntaus, tab sis txawm mus rau lub parting, tom qab tag nrho cov yuav ua li cas muaj ntau yam ntawm cov inconsistencies nyob rau hauv lub cim ntawm ob tug neeg yuav mus nrhiav tau?

Feem ntau tom qab loj fights thiab quarrels tsim kev sib raug zoo yog ib qhov nyuaj. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb hais tias ib co ntawm cov neeg uas nrog tau mus nrhiav ib tug hais nruab nrab thiab txav mus rau pem hauv ntej. Uas yog, nyob rau hauv lub union ntawm ob tug neeg uas ua cas yuav tsum tau ntse, smarter thiab smarter (nyob rau hauv lub siab hais tias ua cas tuav qhov teeb meem no nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev uas yog lig rau ob sab).

Yuav ua li cas koj ua li cas thaum ib tug sib cav sib ceg tseem tshwm sim thiab nyuam qhuav tau ua ib yam dab tsi yuav ua rau nws mus txog? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, koj yuav tsum xav txog yuav ua li cas los tsim kom tau kev sib raug zoo thiab nyob rau tib lub sij hawm mus nrhiav ib tug hais nruab nrab rau qhov teeb meem, vim hais tias ntawm uas tshwm sim thiab tag nrho cov fuss. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom to taub tias nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav tau calmly tham koj yuav tsum mus rau tom qab ib tug sib cav sib ceg nrog nws tus hlub raws li lub sij hawm dhau thiab "passions subsided."

Koj tseem yuav tau xav hais tias tsis tsuas hais txog lawv tus kheej txaus siab thiab kev ntshaw, tab sis lub siab nyiam ntawm tus hlub, vim hais tias nws kuj muaj ib txoj cai rau lawv lub tswv yim nws yog tsim nyog los xav txog, raws li yog hais tias koj tsis nyiam nws.

Yog hais tias koj tau pom ib tug hais nruab nrab, thiab xav kom muaj nws mus rau ib tug hlub ib tug, tab sis tsis paub yuav ua li cas rau txoj kev ua nws, kom lawv muaj kev sib raug zoo, ntawm no yog ib co kev xaiv:

1. Nco ntsoov yuav ua li cas koj tau taug kev nyob rau hauv lub khw, thiab nws nyiam tus thawj khi, tab sis nyob rau ntawm tus taw tes cov nyiaj mus yuav nws tsis yog? Nrhiav tau thiab yuav rau nws. Thiab nyob rau hauv lub yav tsaus ntuj, thaum nkawv sib sau ua ke mus pw, muab tso rau nws lub hauv ncoo. Cia li xav txog tej yam - nws throws ib daim pam, thiab muaj - nws npau suav. Nws yuav zoo siab heev tias koj nco ntsoov thiab tsis dhau tub nkeeg mus nrhiav tus khi. Ces koj yuav tsiv mus nyob rau hauv thiab tham nrog.
2. Koj muaj peev xwm muab tshuaj txhuam rau hauv lub tiaj ntawv nrog qab ntxiag lus thiab yim pab rau dab tsi koj xav kom kev sib raug zoo thiab tag nrho qhib rau loj sib tham. nws yuav zoo heev maj mam thiab nyob rau tib lub sij hawm yuav ua kom nws ntshiab nyiam, ces koj yuav mus mus, tiam sis peb yeej npaj yuav mus xeem tus thawj kauj ruam ntawm reconciliation.
3. Tsis txhob ntshai mus thov zam txim! Cia li vim hais tias koj nyob nraum chim txiv neej thiab ua rau nws ib tug ntau ntawm tsis kaj siab feeb (los yog tej zaum koj tsis coj ib yam nkaus heev rudely tshaj incredibly chim nyiam). Xa nws mus ua hauj lwm ib yam dab tsi uas nws nyiam mus yuav ib tug loj courier thiab ib tug ntawv uas sau lo lus ntawm apology thiab tu siab. Qhia hais tias tos rau ib tug neeg hlub ib tug nyob rau qhov chaw no nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav ua tiag kom sib raug zoo.
4. Yog hais tias txhua yam zoo heev tiag, thiab koj xav tias koj poob koj lub "niam txiv" - mus rau huab ntsuas. Koj yuav hais tau ib banner nrog nws yees duab thiab kos npe rau hauv qab kos nyob rau hauv daim ntawv ntawm cov kwv huam ntawm nws tus kheej. Nws yog kim heev, tab sis nws muaj nqis.

Options rau reconciliation yuav pom zoo nkauj npaum li cas cia li yuav tsum xav hais tias ob zaug. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, qhov no yog tsis tseem ceeb. Qhov loj tshaj plaws yog li cas koj yuav tham txog koj cov teeb meem thiab nrhiav kev daws teeb meem. Yog hais tias lub fact tias muaj yog ib tug loj sib cav sib ceg, mus blame xwb koj (koj puas ntsoog coj, ib tug yuav tsum tau muaj los yog ua phem ntawm kev mob), ces kho lawv tus cwj pwm nyob rau hauv lub paj. Yog hais tias koj zam txim rau koj nyiam lub sij hawm no, nws guarantees tias koj hloov, tsis muaj leej twg yuav muab rau koj. Tsis muaj ib tug tab sis koj! Uas yog vim li cas, yog hais tias tus txoj kev koj yog ib tug neeg uas yog tom ntej no rau koj, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los saib xyuas lawv cov hauv paus ntsiab lus, tus cwj pwm, thiab txhua yam nws yuav tsis nyiam koj tus cwj pwm ntawm nws tus kheej.

Sib tham txog thiab koj yog lawv neeg pab leg ntaubntawv mus rau ib tug nyiam thiab nrhiav tau ib cov tshuaj uas yuav nplua ob leeg.

Nco ntsoov lub feem ntau tseem ceeb txoj cai: nws yog advisable rau tag nrho cov, txawm qhov tsawg tshaj plaws lub sij hawm ib txwm sib tham txog, thiab kev sib tham nyob rau cov ntsiab lus ntawm kev txhawj xeeb rau koj. Tsuas yog ces yuav peb to taub txhua lwm yam thiab ua kom kev sib raug zoo, thiab hais tias yog dab tsi tseem ceeb.