Tej teeb meem muaj nuj nqi, nws constructive thiab puas zog

Tej teeb meem - xws paub thiab paub rau tag nrho cov tswvyim, vim hais tias peb txhua tus yog ntsib nrog tej teeb meem xwm txheej nyob rau hauv lawv tus kheej lub neej, thaum ua hauj lwm, nyob rau hauv txoj kev, thiab lwm yam Cov teeb meem yog inevitably txuas nrog lub ceev ceev surge tig thiab kev nyuaj siab, yog li nws yog feem ntau ascribed heev dua lwm yam puas, puas khoom. Txawm li cas los, psychologists ntseeg tau hais tias ob tog ntawm qhov teeb meem: qhov tsis zoo thiab qhov zoo. Tawm ib sab qhov tsis zoo luag hauj lwm ntawm teeb meem nyob rau tib neeg lub neej thiab tig mus rau nws zoo sab.

Tsim nta ntawm qhov teeb meem

Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, qhov teeb meem - nws yog ib qho ua kom muaj siab rau txoj kev loj hlob. Qhov no daim ntawv qhia yeej siv tau rau kev tsis sib haum. Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias koj xav txog nws, cov quarrels thiab tus txheem nyob rau hauv ib pab neeg hu ua, raws li ib tug txoj cai, nrog kev sib cais thiab rivalries, thiab lawv, ntsig txog, yeej ib txwm ib tug stimulus rau kev sib tw thiab kev loj hlob ntawm lub peev xwm.

Tej teeb meem - nws yog ib qho ua kom muaj siab los hloov. Cov zog yuav tsum tau hu ua ib tug teeb meem teeb liab. Lawv yog cov tsim nyog nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav ua rau nws nyob rau hauv lub sij hawm muaj kev cuam tshuam rau lub contradictions, sim los daws cov teeb meem no ua ntej nws yuav insoluble thiab "puas". Cov "hu" nyob rau hauv lus kev sib raug zoo yog cov thawj quarrels thiab tsis to taub ntawm cov txij nkawm, cov niam txiv thiab cov me nyuam. Thiab nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb tsis mus tob zuj zus rau hauv lub arisen teeb meem stubbornness thiab insistence, thiab muaj kev cuam tshuam thiab ua kom to taub cov ua ntawm quarrels thiab tsis to taub, tiam sis lawv yuav teeb liab qhov yuav tsum tau rau kev hloov thiab nrhiav txoj kev tshiab nyob rau hauv lub kev sib raug zoo.

Tseem yog nws ua tau rau faib xws teeb meem zoo zog raws li cov phau ntawv thiab tham. Heev feem ntau qhov ua rau ntawm qhov teeb meem, ua rau ib tug tej teeb meem yog innuendo thiab txav los nyob ze txoj kev xav. seemingly banal teeb meem nyob qhov twg qhia txog rau thaum xaus ntawm lawm "tso tseg" kab lus, tus nqi ntawm uas yog tsis siab qhia tawm nyob rau hauv qhov kev sib tham, ua rau loj txim, disunity nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg lub neej los yog nruab nrab acquaintances. Tab sis feem ntau heev tsuas yog ib tug ncaj kev sib tham, uas ua ib tug "txhob" nyob rau hauv kev sib raug zoo, yuav qhib li tshiab yam ntawm tus, yav tas los tsis paub hais tias, thiab ua rau ib tug rapprochement thiab ib theem tshiab sib raug zoo.

Zoo nta ntawm qhov teeb meem tau xaus tau lus, thiab tau "rov qab" ntawm kev sib raug zoo thiab cov lus qhib ntawm ib co tshiab, raws li tau paub thiab tsis nco qab nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej potency (qhov no siv feem ntau rau cov intrapersonal teeb meem). Piv txwv li, heev feem ntau cov therapists nyob rau hauv lub sib tham nrog tus neeg mob siv lub ntaus ntawv, mus pab tau txoj qhov kev paub thiab thab plaub ib tug twb loj nrog contradictions, "tearing" lub cwm pwm thiab ua rau hauv tej teeb meem. Nws ua rau ib tug neeg mus tshaj lub siab ntsws yaam puab paub hais tias yog cia li puas, thiab nrhiav ib txoj kev tawm, lub caij ua rau lub foundations ntawm cov tshiab lub sij hawm. Txawm li cas los, peb qhia hais tias lub txais tos yog subservient tsuas mus txog tej tub txawg, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev tsis txhob hla tus kab thiab tsis plunge tus neeg nyob rau hauv ib tug yooj yim kev xav hauv lub xeev, los ntawm uas nws nrhiav tsis tau ib tug constructive qhov hluav taws xob.

Koj muaj peev xwm highlight qhov zoo nta ntawm kev sib raug teeb meem. Qhov no yog feem ntau ib tug muaj nuj nqi rallying pab pawg neeg (tshwj xeeb tshaj yog kev thaiv kev teeb meem nrog rau lwm cov kev sib raug zoo pab pawg). Tej teeb meem xwm txheej yog feem ntau qhov ua rau ntawm kev tsim nyob rau hauv lub pab coalitions uas txhawb menyuamuas nyob rau hauv ib qho pab pawg neeg kev ua ub no ntawm tag nrho cov pab neeg thiab muab txhua leej txhua tus lub sij hawm los mus qhia lawv lub peev xwm.

Tsis tau, peb yuav tsum tsis txhob hnov qab txog cov tug muaj nuj nqi ntawm qhov teeb meem, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum nws yog intrapersonal thiab yuav dab uas cuam tshuam txoj kev loj hlob thiab ib txwm tib neeg zhizneosuschestvlenie. Nyob rau constructive luag hauj lwm ntawm qhov teeb meem yuav tsuas hais thaum raws li ib tug tshwm sim ntawm kev to taub nws ua, thiab kov yeej lub ntsoog tshwm sim los ntawm lawv, tus neeg yuav ntau txog tej thiab paub tab, ntau "tawv" thiab kev nruj heev heev, npaj txhij rau cov tshiab ua thiab tej kev ua. Qhov no kuj muaj tseeb nyob rau hauv relation mus tsis sib haum nyob rau hauv pab neeg no. Cov pab neeg cohesion, qhov ntau loj tej zaum yuav tshwm sim nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem nws, li ntawd, khiav ntawm lawv ua rau thiab cov kev vam meej kev daws teeb meem ntawm ib tug teeb meem qhov teeb meem no - qhov no yog qhov kev xaiv xwb los cawm pab neeg no thiab nws lub luag hauj lwm zog.