Yuav ua li cas qhia rau cov niam txiv txog lub cev xeeb tub: yog vim li cas nws thiaj li nyuaj?

Cov me nyuam - qhov no yog ib tug zoo kawg txuj ci tseem ceeb, muab rau peb los ntawm saum toj no. Yug ib tug me nyuam - yog ib tug cim nco txog uas yog muab rau paub, hmoov tsis, tsis txhua leej txhua tus. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj tseem muaj qhov zoo fortune ntawm cov niam, coj cov xov xwm no muaj kev kaj siab!

Tab sis tej zaum nyob rau hauv ib tug kev txiav txim siab nyob rau hauv cov me nyuam yug ntawm ib tug me nyuam yog kev lom zem ntau los ntawm lwm yam tseem ceeb uas cuam tshuam rau tus hluas nkauj nyob rau hauv ib tug degree los yog lwm: cov niam txiv, haiv neeg, hnub nyoog, kev ua hauj lwm thiab kawm ntawv. Rau tub ntxhais hluas ntxhais, feem ntau, rau schoolgirls ntawm ib qho ntawm cov teeb meem tseem ceeb yog cov lus nug ntawm yuav ua li cas qhia rau nws niam thiab txiv txog lub cev xeeb tub?

Tag nrho cov complexity ntawm qhov teeb meem no yog hais tias lub sij hawm ntawm tus tom ntej kev sib tham yuav ncaj qha mus cuam tshuam tej lub tom ntej kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus ntxhais thiab cov niam txiv, raws li zoo raws li nyob rau hauv no nyob ntawm txoj hmoo ntawm tus me nyuam. Tus ntxhais nyob rau hauv uas muaj hnub nyoog nws tus kheej tsis muaj peev xwm muab tus me nyuam, yog hais tias nws tsis yog sib yuav, ces nws yog lig nyob rau ntawm cov neeg uas tsa thiab tam sim no yog lub luag hauj lwm rau nws.

Yog li ntawd, yuav ua li cas qhia rau cov niam txiv txog lub cev xeeb tub, nws yog tsim nyog los xav hais tias nyob rau hauv ua ntej thiab heev kom huv si. Raws li ib tug txoj cai, chiv xav tau rau kev ntsuam xyuas cov neeg kawm ntawv ntawm complexity ntawm qhov teeb meem no. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam xav li cas, koj thiab koj tus hluas nraug los yog tus txiv raws li nws yug los thiab coj mus nyob rau hauv kev hlub thiab kev hlub, muaj tej yam khoom ntiag tug, ces muaj teeb meem nrog yav tom ntej yawg yuav tsum tsis txhob yuav.

Kuj muaj ntau qhov teeb meem no tej zaum yuav tshwm sim, thaum tus hluas nkauj ces muab pov tseg txiv neej thiab cov me nyuam yuav coj ib tug. Yuav ua li cas qhia rau cov niam txiv txog lub cev xeeb tub, thaum lub teeb meem no nyob twj ywm ib tug tib niam muas thaum chiv thawj yog ib tug tsis zoo xaav? Ntawm cov hoob kawm, yog hais tias tus niam txiv yog cov tawm tsam cov me nyuam yug ntawm ib tug me nyuam, koj muaj peev xwm hais rau nws tus kheej, muaj ib tug me nyuam, thiab tiv thaiv lawv yuav, sim mus qhia ntawv rau nws. Tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab txog hais tias koj yuav muab kev kawm rau nws, muab kom txaus mob thiab tag nrho cov tsim nyog tias nws yuav tsum. Tom qab tag nrho, cov tub ntxhais niam muaj hnub nyoog qhia ib tug tsis muaj kev kawm ntawv thiab zeem muag rau ib tug li qub txoj hauj lwm, muab hais tias yuav muaj ib tug neeg mus saib tom qab ib tug me nyuam lub sij hawm no.

Nco ntsoov hais tias qhov teeb meem nrog cov niam txiv lom zem ntau yog nyob ntawm seb hom ntawm kev sib raug zoo uas koj muaj nrog lawv thiab lawv nrog txhua lwm yam. Yog hais tias lub tsev neeg prevails kev sib nrig sib hwm thiab hlub, cov teeb meem ntawm kev ntxiv yuav tsis muaj ntse. Yog hais tias muaj yog ib co nrog discord nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg, tej zaum yuav muaj ib co teeb meem. Qhov loj tshaj plaws - tsis txhob ntshai! Ntseeg lawv, ces lawv yuav ntseeg tias koj!

Ib txhia hluas nkauj npaum li cas yooj yim hais txog lub cev xeeb tub rau ib co yog ib tug ntawm cov niam txiv, tus neeg uas tsim ib tug kev sib raug zoo ntawm kev ntseeg siab. Rau cov lus qhia yuav ua li cas los qhia rau nws niam hais txog lub cev xeeb tub, yog hais tias nws yog tus zoo ntawm tus neeg nws yog feem ntau tsis txhawj heev. Yog hais tias ib tug niam - ib tug nyob rau hauv txhua txhua tus paub, uas zoo nws yuav to taub thiab txhawb? Tab sis nws yog kuv niam paub tag nrho cov yam ntxwv ntawm cov niam, tag nrho cov nuances ntawm nyuam, yug me nyuam thiab kev pab rau nws, thiab yuav ua tau kom ib tug ntau ntawm cov lus sib cav "rau" thiab "tawm tsam" thaum ntxov cev xeeb tub.

Raws li ib tug txoj cai, yuav ua li cas qhia rau nws niam thiab txiv txog lub cev xeeb tub, cov ntxhais hais psychologists, hoping kom tau ib tug ua kom tiav thiab actionable tswv yim pom zoo. Txawm li cas los, ib tug yuav tsis hnub koj ib puas feem pua zoo tswv yim. Thaum koj paub tias lawv niam lawv txiv, thiab tsuas yog koj paub yuav ua li cas nrhiav tau cov cai mus kom ze.

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nco ntsoov tias yeej tsis ntshai ntawm lawv - lawv yog koj cov khub thiab cov haiv neeg uas hlub thiab to taub zoo dua lwm tus neeg. Yog hais tias tsis lawv, ces leej twg yog koj to taub thiab kev pab txhawb nqa, leej twg yuav nrhiav tau ib qho kev pom cov tshuaj? Kuv yuav tau mus tham rau lawv, tsis zais los nkaum dab tsi. Uas qhib siab dawb paug yuav pab tau lawv to taub cov teeb meem no raws li nws yuav tsum. Tsis txhob ntshai mus qhia rau tag nrho cov, txawm yog hais tias koj txaj muag los yog tsis xis nyob. Cov neeg uas tau muab yug mus thiab tsa, yeej tsis rau txim rau nej ib txwm to taub. Qhia cov leej niam thiab leej txiv hais tias koj hwm lawv thiab lawv cov kev xav, nug cov lus nug, Yog hais tias koj tsis tau yeej ib txwm qhia. Tsuas yog kev sib nrig sib hwm yuav ua rau kev nkag siab! Yuav kom kawm tau li cas los qhia rau nws niam thiab txiv txog qhov uas cev xeeb tub, yog dab tsi lus xaiv, koj yuav tsum xav rau koj tus kheej, tab sis nco ntsoov hais lus zoo npaum li cas tshaj yuav ntsiag to! Xijpeem, nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no.