"Tus poj niam no," los yog ib zaug dua hais txog cov kev piam sij ntawm stereotyping

Yuav ua li cas feem ntau nyob rau hauv peb lub neej peb yuav tau nrog stereotypes? Yog, yuav luag txhua txhua hnub, txhua txhua teev. Lawv yog cov nyob rau hauv peb cov kev xav, nyob rau hauv peb paub, nyob rau hauv lub caij ntawm kev coj cwj pwm thiab xeeb ceem - raws li lwm tus, thiab peb tus kheej. Yuav ua li cas yuav ua tau peb kawm los ntawm thaum yau? Zoo ua si lawv ib feem. Peb hais tias: "ib tug txiv neej tiag tsis txhob quaj," "ib tug yeej muaj tseeb tus poj niam yuav tsum saib xyuas ntawm lawv tus kheej, ntawm lub tsev ntawm nws tus txiv, cov me nyuam" ... thiab peb nrhiav peb tus kheej nyob rau ntawm ib thaum ntxov muaj hnub nyoog nyob rau hauv lub tuav ntawm txawv teb chaws duab kos tau tshwm.

Nco ntsoov yuav ua li cas feem ntau tsuas sab sab tom qab ib tug ua hauj lwm ib hnub, ua lub hauj lwm hauv tsev, thiab tseem ua tej yam nyob ze. Nws tsis xav kom tau sawv ntxov nyob rau hauv thaum sawv ntxov, thaum tseem pw tsaug zog, thiab los npaj tshais rau tag nrho tsev neeg, rau "tiag tiag tus poj niam" yog li ntawd tsis ... Peb cog lus rau noj nyob rau hauv raws li ntau li ntau tau, peb xav mus nrhiav pov thawj Nekrasov "tsis txhob ib tug galloping nees", thiab nyob rau tib lub sij hawm peb yuav tsum tau yuav taus thiab defenseless. Tom qab tag nrho, yuav ua li cas muaj ntau zaus tau hnov - los ntawm leej niam-nyob rau hauv-txoj cai, nws tus txiv tias: ib tug tiag tiag tus poj niam - ib tug maj mam thiab hlub qab, Homemakers, nyob mus ib txhis hais txog poj niam, thiab thiaj li nyob thiab thiaj li tawm mus ... Thiab peb pib ua tsis taus pa nyob rau hauv txawv teb chaws duab kos tau tshwm. Xwb, lub xub ntiag ntawm tawm tsam uas yuav tsum tau - "yuav muaj zog" thiab "tsis muaj zog", "kawm los sawv rau tus kheej taw" thiab "muab tso rau ntawm nws tus txiv" - cais nco qab. Qhov no yog nyob zoo tiag hawv ua phem rau peb neurosis. Nyob rau hauv lub phem tshaj - nws coj mus rau phua tsev neeg li ntawm cov poj niam alcoholism, rau pathological kev sib raug zoo. Cia saib qhov teeb meem ntawm cov poj niam nyob rau hauv lub neej niaj hnub objectively. Thaum kawg peb yuav ua tiag.

Yog hais tias txawm 100-150 xyoo dhau los, tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog txoj kev kawm ntawv ntawm cov me nyuam thiab cov txij nkawm ntawm lub tsev, tab sis tam sim no cov luag hauj lwm hais tias tib nyem ua rau cov poj niam, tsis poob. Heev rau tsis tooj. Rau tam sim no yuav tsum ntawm nws, thiab tsis tau dab tsi ib tug "tiag tiag tus poj niam" yuav tsum zoo-groomed, kev txawj ntse, tso kawm, ywj siab. Thiab yog dab tsi txog lub tsev neeg? Yuav ua li cas feem ntau muaj muaj tau teeb meem chaw? Tujtaws ... Noj, piv txwv li, ib qhov teeb meem nyob qhov twg ib tsev neeg ntawm cov niam txiv muaj nuj nqis kev kawm ntawv thiab cov hauj lwm. "Tus poj niam no," yuav tsum xaiv ib tug txoj hauj lwm, kom tau ib daim ntawv kawm tiav, mus nrhiav kev kawm. Thiab nyob rau hauv nws tus txiv tsev neeg, nyob rau hauv tsis tooj, cov niam nyob rau hauv kev cai lij choj siv mus rau ib tug txoj kev sib txawv ntawm lub neej. Rau nws "tiag tiag tus poj niam" - yog ib tug uas yog tus tub, muab tag nrho nws xav tau kev pab, thaum tsis nco qab txog koj tus kheej. Yuav ua li cas tshwm sim rau lub psyche, Yog hais tias ib tug neeg tau txais mus rau hauv ib qhov teeb meem ntawm tej kev txawj ntse dissonance? Nws tsis. Thiab ib tug poj niam yuav tsis to taub dab tsi yog ua tau yuav tsum ntawm nws cov txheeb ze. Thiab yuav ua li cas hostile thiab txiav txim rau cov ib puag ncig yuav ua tau - nyob rau ntawm lub chaw ua hauj lwm, nyob rau hauv lub vaj, nyob rau hauv kindergarten, qhov uas peb tsav cov me nyuam ... Yog hais tias peb yog ntshai ntawm lawv tus kheej ceg thiab tej teeb meem, qhov uas yooj yim txoj kev - mus nrhiav tau lawv nyob rau hauv lwm tus neeg thiab rau txim. "Yuav ua li cas hom ntawm ib tug niam", "koj saib yuav ua li cas nws yog hnav ris tsho li," "nws yuav cia li zaum nyob rau hauv tsev," los yog "nws yog tus ua hauj lwm thiab kev xav" - raws li peb feem ntau hnov xws li lus xaiv ...

Peb nqus lwm tus neeg lub stereotypes looj hlias, subconsciously. Tab sis yog hais tias peb yeej tsuas muaj mus saib nyob rau koj tus kheej, paub koj tus ntsuj plig - peb twb paub lawm yuav ua li cas kev cob cog rua peb xav raws li peb tsis muaj kev ywj ntawm lub blinders rau lub qhov muag. Thiab yog hais tias peb tseem muaj ib tug muaj zog hlub ntawm lub neej, lub pursuit ntawm nws tus kheej-realization, peb yuav tsum tau tshem lawv. Thiab to taub hais tias nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb tiag tiag ib tug tiag tiag tus poj niam - yog ib tug uas paub yuav ua li cas muaj kev zoo siab thiab dawb. Thiab nws yuav tsum tsis txhob ua tau dab tsi rau leej twg. Nws tuaj mus rau hauv lub ntiaj teb no mus nyob koj lub - nws - lub neej. Thiab tsis txhob ib tug "zoo meej khub", "qhov zoo tshaj plaws niam", "mloog lus tus ntxhais" .... Cia li paub hais tias qhov no, peb yuav kawm tau mus txais koj tus kheej - thiab yog li rau lwm yam - li peb los sis lawv yog.